Identity

Embracing Smallness

Intense love does not measure, it just gives. —Mother Teresa   She swings by in late afternoon and steps right into my chaos. My young kids are at their worst around this time, this witching hour right before dinner when…

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On Being Everywhere I Go

“No matter where you go…there you are,” stated the character Buckaroo Banzai in the 1984 cult film The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the 8th Dimension. This troubling truism has become a bit of a mantra for me as I…

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The Road Back to You: An Interview on the Enneagram

I’ve been interested in the Enneagram for a few years now, but the process to discerning a number, and learning more about it, once you do, can be daunting. Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile are releasing an Enneagram primer…

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Where is Home?

I wonder if the main character in the 2015 film Brooklyn would introduce herself as Eilis from Brooklyn or Eilis from Ireland?   I watch her story unfold and see my own in the reflection of her eyes. I ask…

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The Day I Turned 35

This morning I woke up and gasped, “Why isn’t the baby crying?” I haven’t woken up to anything other than the sounds of my newborn daughter’s cries in over two months. I hurriedly sat up to peek into her bassinet…

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On Being Almost 30

When you are almost thirty, you pass slowly through the face moisturizer aisles and begin to think maybe it’s time. Your face no longer looks like a Maybelline commercial when you wake up in the morning. Instead, your eye lines remind you…

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H is for Hawk, a Memoir

“What would you say if I got a falcon?” The words bleeped within the blackness of my phone screen. It was my boyfriend, the Mainer.   I looked at the words. Considered the question. I began to picture him in…

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The Importance of Being Mom

Sometime in middle school, I remember, I thought it might be a relief to be infertile. But I would never have said out loud then that I didn’t see myself having kids. All around me, I saw examples of what…

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A New Soundtrack for My Life: a Review of Air for Free by Relient K

Last week I wrote about my longstanding relationship with Relient K, the way many of their songs have explained my life so well since my middle school days. On Friday, they dropped a new album, their first since 2013’s Collapsible…

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Who You Gonna Call?

When I was growing up, I wanted to be a spy or a detective. My idea of what this would look like came from 1980s TV shows, namely Scarecrow and Mrs. King and Remington Steele. Amanda King was a spy…

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