Identity

The Importance of Being Mom

Sometime in middle school, I remember, I thought it might be a relief to be infertile. But I would never have said out loud then that I didn’t see myself having kids. All around me, I saw examples of what…

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A New Soundtrack for My Life: a Review of Air for Free by Relient K

Last week I wrote about my longstanding relationship with Relient K, the way many of their songs have explained my life so well since my middle school days. On Friday, they dropped a new album, their first since 2013’s Collapsible…

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Who You Gonna Call?

When I was growing up, I wanted to be a spy or a detective. My idea of what this would look like came from 1980s TV shows, namely Scarecrow and Mrs. King and Remington Steele. Amanda King was a spy…

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Grace Greenleaf Represents Me

Last week I caught up with a friend for dinner. We talk about life, jobs, relationships, politics, pop culture and anything else that may come to mind in 2 hours. At one point during the conversation she asked me if…

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Bromleigh McCleneghan’s Good Christian Sex Interview

I first became familiar with Bromleigh’s writing when I heard her speak on a panel at a writing conference on the topic of writing about sex. Since that time, I’ve been awaiting her book (which releases today). Recently, I caught…

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Identity Crisis

I stood in the embrace of my husband in our bedroom. As the man who had committed to loving me almost a decade ago secured me in his arms and rubbed my back, it was as if a storm of…

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The Ministry of Cleaning Up

Like many people, my husband and I have our favorite television shows. One of these has been The Good Wife, a series that recently aired its final episode. Great writing, strong characters, and a peek inside law firm culture made…

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Being “Right” About a Person’s Identity

By now, you’ve probably seen the YouTube video about the students at the University of Washington who “couldn’t” tell a short white man he wasn’t a tall Asian woman. You’ve probably also seen the almost unanimous internet ruling that these…

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Finding an Identity Away from Home

Mount Desert Island, Maine. 14 May 2016. I am the only young woman sitting in the church who is over twenty and under thirty. I am local in the sense that I am not on vacation. I live ten minutes…

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Notes from the Sample Sizes

I learned about sample sizes when I watched The Devil Wears Prada for the first time. Andy (Anne Hathaway) starts working at a fashion magazine and, at a size 6, she can’t fit into the racks of sample clothes in…

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