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Advice about life and love, about God and church, about your spiritual baggage and your daily struggles.

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Some Advice for Christmas from Ask Addie

First of all, give yourself permission to not be merry or bright. Excuse yourself from the manufactured pressures of Christmas cheer.   The holiday season comes sharp and brittle for some. Maybe even for you. Be gentle with others. Be…

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Finding Post-Election Commonality During the Holidays | Dear Addie #12

Hi Addie:  I found your site when I googled “how to talk to Evangelicals.” (No kidding). Then I read one of your posts about witnessing and I really liked it.  I’m a progressive Jew from a small town in the…

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How Do I Engage Honestly with Respect to Other’s Spiritual Journey? | Dear Addie #11

Dear Addie, My husband and I recently moved back to his hometown after a few years away and started going to a new church. Everything I believe about God has changed so much in the last few years, largely because…

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How Can I Help My Boyfriend Understand Depression is Real? | Dear Addie #10

In your very well-written book, I found a lot of the description of your struggles with loneliness and depression very easy for me to relate to, as someone who still struggles with both. Also, your book inspired me to find…

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How Do I Deal with Being Single in the Family-Centric Church? | Dear Addie #9

Dear Addie,   I recently turned 35. Since I’m single (and have been for almost a decade), I realized I was running out of time to have a family if I wanted one. So I started visiting some Christian singles’…

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What’s the Point of Church? | Dear Addie #8

Dear Addie,   Maybe it’s the skeptic in me, but why does community have to be found in churches as we know them? Can’t they, or shouldn’t they, be found in any group of believers? What makes Sunday morning church…

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Recovering from Legalism | Dear Addie #7

Dear Addie,   How do you recover from a legalistic background? Some verses are still difficult for me to come across without cringing or being hurt. I already know most of the verses have different meanings than what I was…

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Real or Not Real | Dear Addie #6

Dear Addie, I’m a 22-year-old recent college grad, and within the last year and a half I have spiraled into an anxiety-ridden battle with the evangelical church and my faith. When I was in high school I maintained my “Christian…

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The Gospel in Vogue Magazine | Dear Addie #5

Hello Addie,   I really enjoyed your first book When We Were on Fire and have already pre-ordered your new release. I have been a Christian for many years but I’ve had a difficult time feeling any love for God….

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When is it Time to Leave a Church? Dear Addie Column #4

Dear Addie, I grew up thinking Christianity was like a circle that I was enclosed in. My evangelical bubble was small yet so very certain. Every issue I ran across was clearly pre-marked inside the circle or outside the circle….

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